第26章 我们为什么不快乐 (12)

当我们身处逆境（你知道有时候会），请追忆生命中那些曾经充满快乐与幸福的时光吧！

追忆它如何将快乐赐予你，于是你便勇气倍增，生活中的难题也将迎刃而解。

在重重困难面前举步维艰时，回想你努力奋斗最终取得胜利的时刻。

那么，不管生活如何艰难，我们都可坦然而过。

当你觉得身心疲惫时，寻找一个心灵憩息之所，让自己得以片刻休息。

要给自己留点时间去梦想、去充电，以全新的自我迎接未来的每一天。

当你感觉心中的弦绷得太紧时，去找点有趣的事做做。如此，你的压力便渐渐消失，而你的想法也渐趋明朗。

当困难接踵而至时，要明白，就生命的整个历程而言，这些困难犹如空气中的尘埃无足轻重——只有那些美好的事情才值得我们铭记。

记忆填空

1. Remember _______ it made you feel， and you will have the strength you need to get _______any trial.

2. In doing _______， you’ll find you have the ability to overcome each obstacle brought your _______.

When you find_______ drained and depleted of energy， remember to find a place of sanctuary and _______ .

3. _______ you feel tension building， find something _______ to do. You’ll find that the stress you feel will dissipate and your_______ will become clearer.

佳句翻译

1. 要给自己留点时间去梦想、去充电，以全新的自我迎接未来的每一天。

2. 当你感觉心中的弦绷得太紧时，去找点有趣的事做做。

3. 你的压力便渐渐消失，而你的想法也渐趋明朗。

短语应用

1. When you find yourself drained and depleted of energy， remember to find a place of sanctuary and rest.

deplete of：弄空

2. When you’re faced with so many negative and draining situations...

be faced with： 面临；面对

聚焦快乐

Focus on the Joy

佚名 / Anonymous

It’s the Holiday Season—a new year is just around the corner！ I’ll bet you’re already thinking about how you’d like next year to be a little different than last， right？

But instead of thinking of performance， and efficiency， and control， I’d like you to take this opportunity to think about how many things in your daily life that you do “just for the joy of it”？

What I’m talking about here is value-based happiness (as opposed to temporary happiness).

Value-based happiness refers to the general feeling of well being that you experience when you are doing what you perceive to be meaningful—when it’s something that’s important to you.

When you love what you do， you naturally become more efficient. When you do things for the joy of it， you’ll rise above problems， and move easier through life.

Value-based happiness is a by-product from living a life focused on the Joy. It is the by-product of doing things not for what you get in return， not because you “should”or“have-to”， but because you want to， because they are a part of your highest goals， and what your value.

Value-based happiness comes from looking at things with your heart， not just your eyes.

You create value-based happiness by focusing on the joy of life， instead of constantly looking for the next new thing that might make you feel better about yourself， about your life.

So how do you focus on the Joy？

Throw out your ideas about control， effectiveness， and goals. (Yes， they are important， but let’s just try something different， OK？)

Focus on Learning.

Instead of making a goal to achieve more in your job， decide instead to read and learn how to do one new thing each week.

Focus on Time.

Schedule your time to include what’s important to you， like reading time， or exercise time， or family time， or learning time.

Focus on the Why.

Instead of just forcing yourself to mop the kitchen floor， tap into the higher goal that mopping the kitchen floor supports (having a clean and healthy home).

How does that feel？ Not bad， Huh！ If you focus on the pleasure that a desire gives you， you’ll find it easier to put in the work that it takes. (One author gives the example of giving blood—while the experience itself may be less than pleasant， the joy comes in knowing “why” you’re doing it).

And I absolutely guarantee that you will achieve more， mainrain your efforts， and have a much better journey along the way.

Over the next 12 months， instead of focusing on the effort， FOCUS ON THE JOY. Focus on the people and things that are most important to you. Focus on the pleasure you get out of moving towards your goals. Focus on the process of creating something， not what results you expect.

Invest in yourself more than you ever thought was allowed. Not only will you reap rewards， but those around you will benefit more than you ever believed.

新的一年就要来临，这是放假的季节！我敢打赌，你肯定考虑过让新的一年如何不同于即将过去的一年，我说得对吗？

但我希望你能借此机会想一想，在你的日常生活中，有多少事“仅仅是为了其中的乐趣”才做的，而不是考虑什么成绩、效率和管理。

这里我要说的是，基于价值的幸福（而不是暂时的幸福）。

当你在做自认为有意义的事，或在当时对你来说很重要的事时，你所感受到的那种普遍的幸福感就是基于价值的幸福。

当你热爱自己的事业时，自然就会很有效率。当你为了快乐而做事时，你会很容易克服困难，生活也会更加轻松。

基于价值的幸福是为快乐而生活、不求回报的产物。你做任何事情都是因为你想这样做，因为这是你最高目标的一部分，是你在乎的东西，而不是因为你“应该”或是“不得不”。

基于价值的幸福源于你用心去看事情，而不仅仅是用眼睛。

基于价值的幸福，是通过聚焦生活的快乐创造而来，而不是一味地寻找可能使你或你的生活更美好的下一个新事物。

因此，你该如何聚焦快乐呢？

抛开那些关于管理、效率和目标的东西。（诚然，它们是重要的，但是让我们尝试一些不同的事情，怎么样？）

注意学习。

下定决心读书或每周学做一件新事情，而不是制订一个目标，要在工作上取得更多的业绩。

注意时间。

你的时间表内应该安排那些对你来说重要的事情，如读书、锻炼、家人团聚，或学习的时间。

注意原因。

不要勉强自己去拖厨房的地板，而是放眼拖厨房地板所带来的更高目标（有个干净健康的家）。

感觉如何？哈，不错！如果你注意工作带给你的快乐，那么，你会更轻松地深入到工作中。（一位作家以献血为例——经历的本身也许并不快乐，但是，快乐来自于你明白自己为什么要这样做）。

我保证，你会收获更多，只要你坚持不懈地努力，你的人生旅途会更加精彩，你的收获一定会更多。

新的一年，请聚焦快乐，而非关注付出。关注对你最重要的人和事；关注你向目标前进中的快乐；关注创造事物的过程，而非你期待的结果。

付出比你想象的更多的努力，这样你不仅会收获回报，而且你身边的人也会受益更多。

记忆填空

1. When you love _______ you do， you naturally become more efficient. When you do things for the joy of it， you’ll rise above _______ ， and move easier life.

2. Value-based happiness is a by product from living a life_______ on the Joy. It is the by product of doing things not for what you get in _______ ， not because you“should”or“have-to”， but because you _______to， because they are a part of your highest goals， and _______your value.

3. Over the next 12 months， instead of focusing on the _______ ， FOCUS ON THE JOY. Focus on the people and things that are most_______to you.

佳句翻译

1. 下定决心读书或每周学做一件新事情，而不是制订一个目标，要在工作上取得更多的业绩。

2. 你的时间表内应该安排那些对你来说重要的事情，如读书、锻炼、家人团聚，或学习的时间。

3. 抛开那些关于管理、效率和目标的东西。

短语应用

1. It’s the Holiday Season—a new year is just around the corner！

around the corner：不久的将来；将要到来

2. What I’m talking about here is value-based happiness（as opposed to temporary happiness）.

oppose to：反对